If you and your spouse have decided to divorce, you may worry about what the future will hold. You may also have concerns about how your children will cope with the impending legal process and transition to separate parenting.
In 2021, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention states that 689,308 couples divorced or annulled their marriages, and many of those who are parents likely had similar concerns. The following strategies can help your children cope with your divorce and their new living arrangements.
Keep things amicable
Shield your children from the difficulties and animosity of the divorce process as much as possible. When speaking to your former spouse in front of your children, refrain from getting angry and try to keep a calm, businesslike tone.
Work on maintaining consistency between your household and your former spouse’s as much as possible. Set similar rules for bedtimes, homework, discipline, screen time and other facets of parenting at both homes.
Your children may have a variety of questions about what is happening and want to talk about their feelings with you. Validate their emotions as much as possible and spend time talking to your children about what is happening.
It is normal for your children to feel anxious, upset, angry and many other emotions throughout the duration of the divorce process and for a while after the conclusion of your divorce. Be there for your children as much as possible and assure them that while life may feel different right now, it will not be like this forever.