Divorce is a big adjustment for the whole family. As you are getting used to living without your ex, your kids are getting used to not having both parents at all times.
Co-parenting is about putting your kids first and making sure you meet their needs.
1. Communicate effectively
Find a communication strategy that works for you and your ex. If you have a difficult relationship, consider communicating only through email or text so that emotions do not take over and turn every conversation into an argument.
2. Follow the schedule
Adjusting to seeing each parent for a limited time can be a difficult adjustment for children. Show your kids that they can rely on you. Show up to all custody exchanges on time. Be present at every school event or after-school activity when expected.
3. Listen to your kids
Let your children know they can talk to you about their anxieties or fears about the divorce. Validate their feelings and reassure them that they are safe. If they continue to struggle emotionally, do not hesitate to seek counseling for them so they can learn strategies to work through their feelings.
If you continue to struggle with anxiety or stress after your divorce and find that it is affecting your relationship with your kids or your ability to communicate with your ex when necessary, seek help. Whether it is a support group, a therapist or a group of trusted friends that will listen, find an outlet to work through your stress so that you can be a more present parent for your kids.
